Electrical – Eagle PCB design how to make flat pins for the power socket

1. You're using a strange mix of curved, straight and 45° traces. The point is purely aesthetic for a design like this, but I would try to stick to 45° traces.
2. Yes, they're the solder pads.
3. Not if your PCB netlist matches the schematic's.
4. You'll have to choose actual parts first and check the drawings in the datasheet, or, if you have parts already, measure them. This goes especially for the capacitors, resistors are more forgiving about this (though you'll want to use as much as possible the same pitch for them).
5. If you don't want to place a header or connector there I would place them a bit more apart. You can use a 1-pin header as component.

Also try to be consistent with the symbols in your schematic. You mix American resistor symbols with a European potmeter symbol. (Personally, I don't like the American symbol at all; a schematic with lots of resistors IMO looks messy and frenetic, while the same with European symbols radiates rest & relaxation :-)).

edit
A comment on the double-sided board. This is a design that easily can be done on a single layer. It's worth practicing the layout part of your design. You'll learn how just swapping two components may simplify your routing significantly. For instance the red trace from R6 to the IC can be swapped to the other side by simply placing R6 between R4 and C4. Things like that. It will help you later on when you have more complex designs with hundreds of nets. And it can be fun, too. I like this kind of puzzles a lot. It's like playing planarity.
The problem with this double-sided design is that there are pads which are not accessible for soldering, because they're under a component on the component side, like with C3 or M1. If you don't have plated-through holes you can't be sure the wire is properly soldered to the pad. Worse, if the component's package sits on the pad you can almost be certain that there won't be a solder connection between pin and pad.

Starting with v6, Eagle supports true copy&paste. This means that you can copy any part from one design to the windows clipboard and just paste it into another!
You can even copy/paste groups of parts, and between two different eagle instances (this wasn't possible before either).

This is a MAJOR improvement from earlier eagle versions (where the cut/copy/paste was totally counter-intuitive/horrible) and reason enough to upgrade.

Note that you have to use group select + copy even for a single party to make it work. The just paste it in any other schematic.

This way you only "import" the parts into the schematic and don't have to worry about from which library it comes or where it should go at all (assuming this is not a requirement).