To answer your questions: We don't choose anything with transformers to have positive polarity. See the wiki. You could reverse the dots on both sides and still get the same result. The dots help you to know what the physical relation of the transformer coils are. If you have two coils, you have four terminals to connect to the circuit. But the circuit doesn't care which side is positive or negative. It only cares if the coils are reversed or not. It is just a notation. Notations are only useful if you know the rules behind them and how they are realized in the model and the physical world.
As far as magnetic flux goes, you really need to think about the magnetic fluxes in terms of mutual inductance. The transformer model uses 4 inductances, 2 of which are mutual (usuually called M) and characterize the flux between the two inductors. Vp always exists across the primary, you have to have a voltage to have current, it may be zero if its a time varying field.
Maintaining high flux in the core applies to non-ideal transformers. An ideal transformer has no resistance in the coil and no magnetic resistance in the material of the core. The idea there is if you introduce a material you have losses, you also have losses to outside world. In a universe with only a transformer, all the field lines would loop back into the other end, and you would have no losses. In the real world they connect and do work on other materials. In addition, air is not a great way to conduct magnetic fields, it has a low magnetic permeability. So we use a good material like iron to conduct the most of the magnetic field with its high magnetic permeability. This also has its problems because iron saturates, it has a point where it can't conduct very well. This saturation must be taken into account or it will clip the top of the sine wave.
I think a better way to look at a transformer is you are trading off voltage for current. A power engineer might be concerned about the inner workings of a transformer where you have losses (and they actually have magnetic circuits with multiple coils) but in the ideal case all you have to worry about are the mutual inductance, the inductance of the coils themselves and the ratio of the coils.
And the last paragraph doesn't make much sense to me either. So I can't answer your question there.
The reason we do this is because there's two resistive components in the system: the arc where we are welding and the transformer itself. We're looking not just to maximize power in the weld, but to minimize waste. If the transformer's resistance is higher than that of the welder, then most of the energy actually gets dissipated in the transformer, and the transformer heats up like crazy. If we decrease the number of winding to decrease that resistance, then we improve our power transfer, but decrease the voltage of the transformer.
There's a sweet spot for each system. That's where they're trying to aim. In the case of a welder, that sweet spot involves a step down to low voltage and high amperage.
Also, if you have any control circuitry, controlling the amperage is better than controlling the voltage here. The voltage drop of the system comes from all sorts of wires and connections. The resistance of the system, for instance, can drop if you connect more metal surfaces together with good solid welds. This means that, if you control voltage, you have to pay attention to all of these details, when all you really cared about was "power in the weld." If you control amperage instead, then your power dissipation in the weld is always \$P=i^2R_{weld}\$, and it ignores all those other details. Thus, it is helpful to think in current terms.
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It looks like you already wound the secondary. I think you probably know how many turns you have on the secondary or can count them pretty easily since there are just a few. So just measure the primary and secondary voltages while the secondary is open-circuited. Then you can calculate the primary turns using the basic voltage equation for transformers.
V1/N1 = V2/N2
Where V1 is the primary voltage, N1 is the number of turns on the primary, V2 is the secondary voltage, and N2 is the number of turns on the secondary. Just rearrange the equation to solve for N1.
Be careful not to get shocked by the primary side.