On macOS Big Sur and later, use this command:
sudo lsof -i -P | grep LISTEN
or to just see just IPv4:
sudo lsof -nP -i4TCP:$PORT | grep LISTEN
On older versions, use one of the following forms:
sudo lsof -nP -iTCP:$PORT | grep LISTEN
sudo lsof -nP -i:$PORT | grep LISTEN
Substitute $PORT with the port number or a comma-separated list of port numbers.
Prepend sudo (followed by a space) if you need information on ports below #1024.
The -n flag is for displaying IP addresses instead of host names. This makes the command execute much faster, because DNS lookups to get the host names can be slow (several seconds or a minute for many hosts).
The -P flag is for displaying raw port numbers instead of resolved names like http, ftp or more esoteric service names like dpserve, socalia.
See the comments for more options.
For completeness, because frequently used together:
To kill the PID:
sudo kill -9 <PID>
# kill -9 60401
As UDP is connectionless protocol, on step 4 you check the contents of UDP message and decide how to handle it. In other words, the type of message is defined only by it's contents.
However, I have a feeling that your whole design is a bit wrong. It's much more common for the client to be behind firewall (just because there exist more clients, than servers). If you need to put the server behind firewall, you just configure the firewall to allow connections to the set of ports. Even when you have just one more port opened, nothing prevents the client from connecting to the same server port several times in parallel.
Best Answer
Binding is only a required, if there is no other way for the computer to know which program to send the packets to. For connection less programs this is only the receiving end.
Please have a look at socket connect() vs bind() this post.
There a much better job of explaining is done than I'm able to do. If you've got any questions after. Feel free to ask:)