Starting from the beginning, at the Facebook sign up page, there is the following
Facebook requires all users to provide
their real date of birth to encourage
authenticity and provide only
age-appropriate access to content. You
will be able to hide this information
from your profile if you wish, and its
use is governed by the Facebook
Privacy Policy.
This takes care of the birthday issue.
For the nickname, there is the following,
Please note that Facebook account
names must adhere to the following
authenticity standards: Your full
first and last name must be listed.
Initials cannot stand in place of your
full name. Nicknames can be listed if
they are a variation of your first or
last name, but only in the format
"First Name ‘Nickname’ Lastname."
Under Facebook Terms, here is what you need to be aware of
Registration and Account Security
Facebook users provide their real
names and information, and we need
your help to keep it that way. Here
are some commitments you make to us
relating to registering and
maintaining the security of your
account:
- You will not provide any false personal information on Facebook, or
create an account for anyone other
than yourself without permission.
- You will not create more than one personal profile.
- If we disable your account, you will not create another one without our
permission.
- You will keep your contact information accurate and up-to-date.
Knowing this and
- the assumption that disabling accounts are automated but appeals are manual
- the assumption that not entering your contact information accurately lead to this
- the assumption there are many, many, many appeals per day
9 days to even two weeks seems reasonable. Someone I knew was banned but appealed, it took a very long while but a well worded polite email plus some patience led to a renewal. This is not going to work for everyone obviously.
In your case, as noted on this appeal page for deactivated accounts (though not new accounts, I think the same process applies)
"Note that writing in and submitting your ID multiple times will not result in a faster response. Once you submit your initial request, it is placed in a queue and responded to accordingly. We appreciate your patience and apologize for any inconvenience this may cause."
There still is information that we need from you to decipher the information further, you said that it is a new account, yet you needed to confirm with a license. This sounds like a re-activation to me. It would be best if you could walk us through your entire process from sign up to roadblock with all relevant links and email correspondences that Facebook sent (REMOVE ALL PERSONAL INFORMATION)
Best Answer
In my experience the "add friend" disappears if the person deletes/rejects your friend request. I tested this with a dummy account. Some of the people I sent requests that were rejected the "add friend" after a period of time returns. However if that person marks you "spam" the "add friend" button never returns. I do not know how long the "add friend" returns but I suspect that it is a period of time that Facebook determines generically.