Youtube – I don’t want to count the own YouTube views

Till the end. I don't remember the source, but I read it somewhere in YouTube itself.

Update: According to this page in YouTube support, it's not that simple.

Prior to 200-300 views, view count on the watch page acts as a real time hit counter. Each visit to that page, regardless of who is visiting (even the video owner) increases the view count by 1 (but see the secondary system below).

After 300 views, the whole system changes; the secondary view counters kick in. YouTube has never said exactly what they're counting (or not) but it's known that they throw out the original hit counter and re-evaluate all the page views and only allows hits which YouTube calls a "view".

Your views are not updated in real time so there is no way to know exactly when somebody actually seen your video. As for notifications I don't think that there is a way (at least not directly from YouTube) because it would be quite annoying to receive notifications for viral videos.