There are many losses associated with switching, but it sounds like you are most concerned about the additional thermal load introduced into the MOSFETs in the period transitioning between on and off. I thought it would be easy to find some application notes on this, but surprisingly it wasn't. The best I found was AN-6005 Synchronous buck MOSFET loss calculations with Excel model from Fairchild, the relevant parts of which I'll summarize here.
During the switching transition, the voltage and current in the MOSFET will look approximately like this:
The switching losses we are going to calculate are those in periods \$t2\$ and \$t3\$ due to the voltage and current in the MOSFET. The way to approach this is to calculate the energy of each transition, then convert this into an average power according to your switching frequency.
If you look at just \$t2\$, \$V\$ is nearly constant, and \$I\$ increases approximately linearly, forming a triangle. Thus, the power also increases linearly, and the total energy is the time integral of power. So the energy is just the area of that triangle:
$$ E_{t2} = t_2 \left( \frac{V_{in} I_{out}}{2} \right) $$
\$t3\$ also forms a triangle. In this case, the voltage is changing instead of the current, but still the power makes a triangle, and the calculation of energy is the same.
Since the calculation is the same for \$t2\$ and \$t3\$, then it's not really important how much time is spent in \$t2\$ vs \$t3\$; all that really matters is the total time spent switching. The energy losses from one switch are thus:
$$ E_{switch} = (t_2 + t_3) \left( \frac{V_{in} I_{out}}{2} \right) $$
And, your switching frequency is how many times per second you incur this energy loss, so multiplying the two together gets you the average power loss due to switching:
$$ P_{switch} = f (t_2 + t_3) \left( \frac{V_{in} I_{out}}{2} \right) $$
So, taking your calculation of the switching period being \$150ns\$, and the maximum current being \$330A\$, and the voltage \$12V\$, and the switching frequency \$30kHz\$, the power losses from switching are:
$$ 30kHz \cdot 150ns \left( \frac{12V \cdot 330A}{2} \right) = 8.91W $$
That's \$8.91W\$, ideally, shared between three transistors, so only about \$3W\$ each, which is pretty insignificant compared to your other losses.
This number can be checked for sanity with a simpler model: if you spent \$150ns\$ switching, and you do it \$30000\$ times per second, then you can calculate the fraction of the time you spend switching, and make the most pessimistic assumption of the full power of \$12V\cdot330A\$ being lost in the transistors:
$$ \require{cancel}
\frac{150 \cdot 10^{-9} \cancel{s}}{\cancel{switch}}
\frac{30 \cdot 10^3 \cancel{switches}}{\cancel{s}}
\cdot 12V
\cdot 330A = 17.82W $$
Of course, over the switching period, the average current and voltage is only half that of the maximum, so the switching losses are half this, which is what we just calculated.
However, I bet in practice, your switching times will be slower. A "\$2A\$ gate driver" isn't a constant current source as these calculations assume. The real picture is rather more complicated than this simple model. Additionally, the current will be limited by the resistance, and usually more significantly, the inductance of the transistor packages and the traces leading to them.
Let's just say the inductance of the gate driver, transistor package, and traces to it is \$1\mu H\$. If your gate drive voltage is \$12V\$, then \$di/dt\$ is limited to \$12V/1\mu H = (1.2\cdot 10^7)A/s\$. This may seem like a lot, but on the time scale of \$150ns\$, it's not. Keeping the inductance low will take some very careful layout.
So, I would say that these calculations show that your switching losses may be manageable, though you won't know for sure until you've made the layout and tested it. Even if you can't reach the ideal of a \$150ns\$ switching time, the losses are low enough relative to your other problems that you have some margin to do worse and still function.
Your bigger problem is probably getting the three MOSFETs to switch at the same time. Otherwise, one of them will get a disproportionate share of the total current, and thus heat, leading to premature failure.
The IRFB7434 is a rather modern MOSFET, possibly employing trench gate structures. In linear operation, these modern MOSFETs can exhibit a positive temperature coefficient on a local scale, leading to current localization followed by local overheating and finally by failure. Further information on these effects can be found in the application note "Automotive MOSFETs in Linear Applications: Thermal Instability" by Infineon.
All SOA diagrams I have encountered so far in datasheets do not take this effect into account and are thus invalid for describing linear operation behavior. This localization effect also renders thermal models invalid if these are based on the thermal impedance graph, as a homogeneous power loss density within the silicon die is assumed.
It is important to note that the SOA data is not actually measured, it is calculated from models and statistical data. Apparently, the models used by most semiconductor manufacturers are somewhat outdated.
Long story short: You cannot use the SOA diagram of modern MOSFETs or the thermal impedance diagram to predict their behavior in linear operation. Maybe you can modify your circuit to prevent linear operation.
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You are neglecting to consider the heat capacity of the chip. This acts like a capacitor in the thermal equivalent circuit, connected between Tj and (some arbitrarily defined) ground, which prevents the chip from heating up instantaneously. Unfortunately you are unlikely to find good data on exactly what the value of this capacitor should be.
You can refer to the safe operating area curve for your MOSFET:
Based on this it's probably safest to keep your switching time below 10 ms, instead of close to 1 s as you have currently.